When I hear the phrase Running with Heels I immediately think of empowered women. The kinds of ladies who love themselves completely and have the confidence to be true to themselves in all situations. The self-assured leaders who can go after what they want and stand up for themselves, while still being gracious and fair. Never blaming or hating. Always accepting self-responsibility. Achieving success in both life and relationships.

When I hear the phrase Running with Heels I immediately think of empowered women.  The kinds of ladies who love themselves completely and have the confidence to be true to themselves in all situations.  The self-assured leaders who can go after what they want and stand up for themselves, while still being gracious and fair.  Never blaming or hating.  Always accepting self-responsibility.  Achieving success in both life and relationships.

So my goal for this column is to help empower all women.  Specifically, I want to challenge how you think and inspire you to take positive action…to help you feel amazing on the inside.  I'll show you how to make your relationships happier, and healthier.  And if you're looking for love, I'll help you attract (and keep) the perfect man for you.  Most importantly, I want to give you the confidence to be whoever you want to be.

My whole philosophy about life and love is that "It's All About You".  Not in the spoiled, selfish, have-to-have-things-my-way approach.  That's not being empowered.  But by being aware of, and taking responsibility for your inner emotions, actions and choices.  You always have a choice.  And if that choice is always positive you'll be empowered.

Have you noticed how simply changing your shoes can make you feel completely different inside?  Jeans and a t-shirt take on a whole different attitude when paired with spiky heels, as opposed to flats or sneakers.  Well, you can do the same thing with your thoughts.

Of course I realize changing your thinking isn't quite as easy as changing your footwear.  But you can do anything that you decide you want to do.  And I'll be here to help.

Let's say you're feeling insecure about your guy's female friend.  She's gorgeous and you feel she wants your man.  You can drive yourself crazy wondering if she's trying to undermine you (which would mean she's succeeding).  Or you can decide to view it differently.  You can stop comparing yourself to her and acknowledge everything that's wonderful about you!  You can also remind yourself of all the ways your man makes you feel loved (if he doesn't, you should dump him).  And you can make her your friend too.  You might even decide you like her.

The first step in changing your thinking is to be aware of when you should.  Whenever you're feeling upset or bothered by a situation, try to put a label on the core emotion.  Are you scared? (That you'll lose him.)  Jealous? (That she's prettier or has known him longer.)   Insecure? (That you're not good enough for him.)  Maybe all three?  After you identify it then you can ask yourself how you might turn those negative thoughts around.  Like in the example above.

Whatever you're thinking or feeling about yourself on the inside will be the energy you project on the outside.  You are what you think you are.  Consequently, what everyone else will think you are too.  So what are you thinking?

Next week I'll show you how to perfect a positive perception.  And in order to make this column All About You I'd like you to post your thoughts and questions.  They can be about anything that you want help with: maintaining your power, raising self-esteem, boundaries, dating, relationships, life, career…you tell me.  I'll do my best to answer them all.

You have the power to be whoever you want.  So while you're sporting those sexy new shoes, think like a goddess and you'll truly be one.